{"id":422,"date":"2007-02-15T22:09:50","date_gmt":"2007-02-15T20:09:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/2007\/02\/15\/todds-tips-for-dating\/"},"modified":"2007-02-15T22:09:50","modified_gmt":"2007-02-15T20:09:50","slug":"todds-tips-for-dating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/2007\/02\/15\/todds-tips-for-dating\/","title":{"rendered":"Todd&#039;s Tips for Dating"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I looked tonight and saw that I haven&#8217;t posted anything here in a week.  Sorry to disappoint.  I guess nothing has come to mind at the right time.  But I looked through my stack of &#8220;drafts&#8221; and found something that, while unpolished, might get me out of having to think harder.<\/p>\n<p>Yesterday was, of course, Valentine&#8217;s Day.  To celebrate, I took the students to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bibleplaces.com\/shiloh.htm\">Shiloh<\/a> where we did a careful biblical exegesis of Judges 21, which gives the prescribed method for dating.  This chapter is really quite helpful and relevant.  After the study, it was time for application, and so the guys hid in the outlying area while the girls danced.  In little time, quite a few matches were made and the biblical principles were ingrained in ways that can hardly be surpassed.<\/p>\n<p>More seriously, at some point in the recent past, I jotted down a few thoughts I had with regard to dating.  These are primarily geared to ladies.  I find that ladies need to hear this more because 1) there tend to be more ladies than guys in Christian circles, including TMC; 2) ladies generally are not pursuing guys and thus have less &#8220;control&#8221;; 3) society, especially Christian society, has placed some unbiblical expectations on young women with regard to marriage.  So, for what it&#8217;s worth, here are a few of my thoughts.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Don&#8217;t be consumed; don&#8217;t be anxious.<\/li>\n<li>Be happy to be single; take advantage of the opportunities you wouldn&#8217;t have if you were married.<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t come on too strong; I&#8217;d probably avoid this line: &#8220;I&#8217;m hoping to get married in a year and a half.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>But don&#8217;t act uninterested if you might be.<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t be unsatisfied with a good friendship; the best marriages come from this.<\/li>\n<li>Wait for the right guy; that means passing some by.<\/li>\n<li>Be the right girl.<\/li>\n<ul>\n<li>If you dress immodestly, you&#8217;ll get a guy (the wrong one).<\/li>\n<li>They can tell the difference between genuine and a show.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<li>Compromise on some things but not on his faith.<\/li>\n<li>Consider whether you should move to a place where there are more of the right kinds of guys.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Some potential titles for my new book:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Dating: What You Can Learn from the Benjaminites<\/li>\n<li>Grab a Girl and Go<\/li>\n<li>Valentine&#8217;s Day, God&#8217;s Way<\/li>\n<li>The Vineyards of Shiloh: A Biblical Strategy for a Happy Marriage<\/li>\n<li>I Kissed Courting Goodbye<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ol>\n<ul \/><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I looked tonight and saw that I haven&#8217;t posted anything here in a week. Sorry to disappoint. I guess nothing has come to mind at the right time. But I looked through my stack of &#8220;drafts&#8221; and found something that, while unpolished, might get me out of having to think harder. Yesterday was, of course,\u2026 <span class=\"read-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/2007\/02\/15\/todds-tips-for-dating\/\">Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-422","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","category-humor"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/422","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=422"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/422\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=422"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=422"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toddbolen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=422"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}