Another Source of Income

By | August 22, 2007

This could help pay for my PhD, especially if it were retroactive…

Hundreds of religious-Zionist singles have signed a letter to their leading rabbis and other prominent figures, asking for the institution of a new/old practice of paying matchmakers.  This, they feel, will encourage qualified people to offer more shidduchim (potential matches).

“The problem of the growing number of singles is well-known,” the letter states. “One of its causes is that we rely almost totally on favors; we hope that our friends and relatives will offer us shidduchim.  But it turns out that even something so important as this, if it is dependent only on good-will and favors, does not work so well.”

“As time goes on, more and more young men and women of the religious-Zionist public reach the age of 30 or more without yet being privileged to get married.  It is surprising and sad to hear that a not-small portion of them barely even receive any offers of potential matches….”

Getting down to brass tacks, the letter stipulates 2,500 shekels (nearly $600) as the price to be paid by each side for a successful match….

Chananya Weismann, founder of a U.S. organization called End the Madness, has proposed a similar idea, but one that would specifically encourage high-quality matchmakers.  The idea is for the matchmaker to offer $20 to a single for a first-date, which the matchmaker would lose if the first date does not lead to a second date.

When “proposing a match between two singles,” Weismann writes, “the shadchan says, ‘I am so confident that this is someone you should meet that I am giving you $20 to help pay for the date. If you decide to see this person again, give me back the $20. If you ultimately marry this person, then pay me $2,000.'”

This arrangement, Weismann feels, would encourage the matchmakers to carefully research their suggestions, and not offer half-baked ideas with little potential.  It would also cause the singles themselves to treat the shidduch seriously, and invest their own energy, time, and money on it.

Source: Arutz-7

0 thoughts on “Another Source of Income

  1. Sherrie Johnson

    Haha! I agree with Jennica – You should definitely do it, Todd! I think it’s right up your alley.

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  2. Danielle

    Out of curiousity, just how many matches have you had your hand in, Todd? :-) I’m sure you could even count the couples who initially bonded by studying together for your mid-terms!

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  3. Amy Gilmore

    I’m not sure Todd…. You didn’t see Happy & me happening, did you? ;-)

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  4. Todd Bolen

    Danielle – not as many as my reputation suggests. So I’d better not say lest the bubble be burst.

    Amy – I did not. Nobody did, yourself included :-).

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